That I identify as queer if you donвЂ™t really know me you may not know.
Folks are frequently astonished whenever we let them know we date females, too, because we can вЂњpassвЂќ as being right. We donвЂ™t have actually the stereotypical markers of queerness that some individuals look out for in queer females: tattoos, quick locks, rainbows and Xena (hey Haydee!), flannel shirt, etc. (trust in me, We attempted the faux hawk thing and it also didnвЂ™t work with me personally!).
We identify as вЂњfemmeвЂќ and We possess and like it. My femme ness does not make me any less queer, radical, or feminist, because i’m working out agency to determine just what queerness and womanhood appearance and feel like for me personally. In addition, stereotypes that expect lesbian females become butch, and homosexual males to be feminine further perpetuate heteronormativity and erase the required difference between sex identification and intimate orientation. A subject for an extended post.
As you are able to imagine, my capacity to вЂњpassвЂќ as straight and being regarded as usually feminine give me use of specific privileges (cis and hetero ). Plus it makes being queer just a little tricky in certain cases, too. […]